• The Wedding Help

February Round Up

Updated: Apr 29, 2020

So February feels like it really has been the LONGEST month ever, even more so than January if that’s possible!? Maybe it was the extra day we’ve had, who knows! But, long hasn’t been negative for me, it’s been a really productive month for me.

Filled with client meetings, supplier meetings, 'wedmin' for upcoming weddings and the first wedding of 2020 with Emily K Weddings. It was a fabulous day despite Storm Dennis showing up to stick his oar in, but the weather certainly didn't spoil any fun over at the beautiful Woolas Barn, just outside of York.

Emily is expecting her first baby and has asked me to cover some of her upcoming weddings. I think our industry gets an awful internal reputation for being ultra competitive, having huge impostor syndrome and Instagram jealousy, and it’s true, as with all industries there are people you’d rather not work with on the reg, but it’s mostly filled with genuinely lovely, hardworking people. Collaboration and building a network of people who do the same as me is a priority and it will always remain important to me. You never know when you might need the same help from others and people make the world go round!

This cemented the importance of being nice and started my year with a really positive message to myself, collaboration over competition every time and that goes for life in general as well as work.

I also had the pleasure of a short interview with BBC Radio Sheffield on the 29th of February – (you can listen to the whole thing here if you'd like and I begin from about 1hour 35mins in). It raised some really interesting questions for me around equality in weddings, but the initial conversation was around the leap year tradition of women led proposals specifically on this date.

The tradition comes from a nun named Saint Bridget, who complained to Saint Patrick that women had to wait too long for their suitors to propose. Legend has it that Saint Patrick then decreed that women could have the opportunity to pop the question - but only on a particular day in February, every four years. If a man turned down a woman’s proposal on a leap day they should pay a penalty. The fine could consist of a new gown, money, or more unusually, 12 pairs of gloves for the lady.

According to Brides, only 5% of ladies propose to their other halves in heterosexual relationships, but according to Match – 70% of men would welcome their ladies proposing. Hmm… food for thought right there as there seems to be a gap! There are many, many reasons why men are more likely to propose than women, but some of the reasons ladies are apprehensive about proposing include 'pity parties' if women take the plunge and the romantic tradition of being asked, too irresistible to give up.

I think we’ve come a long way in terms of equality in life as well as weddings, but in my opinion, weddings are still somewhat traditional affairs but if not 100%, there are usually traditional elements weaved within. Little wedding traditions such as walking down the aisle, being given away and cutting a cake are still prevalent, but now with added tweaks. For example, couples are not always given away by their fathers, but instead, sons, mothers, friends and uncles still makes the tradition heartwarming. Likewise cakes are not always fruit, 3 tiered and iced. Sometimes, there are a variety of cakes in a 'bake off' style, other times cake is replaced with doughnuts, cupcakes and other desserts. I think, we are still very much mixing traditional and modern aspects together instead of replacing these completely. That being said, brides preparing and delivering a speech on their day as well as grooms, fathers and best men, is becoming more common place and is well received.

Financially, more and more couples are financing plans themselves, meaning they are both invested in their outputs. It's becoming quite typical for parents and relatives to contribute a sum of money for the wedding now, as opposed to dedicated spending to certain elements, making the planning a process of collaboration as opposed to direction.

Wedding's will always have room for personalisation and different interpretations on traditional aspects. My thoughts for the next few years, and decades, is that some changes will become more normalised and expected, such as brides giving speeches but I also think we could see older traditions being cemented more than ever.

I am one of the many who think traditions are really romantic and feel lucky we are a country so rich in heritage, it would be a shame to lose them! The UK has some wonderful traditions as well as being agile enough to embrace the new.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on the leap year tradition and traditions in general, get in touch for a chat!

Jess X

Photography by Dave Moroney UK Wedding Photographer